Read the following short story "The Little Things are Big Things," by Jesus Colon, a Puerto-Rican American who lived in New York City. Have you ever had an experience impact you so much that you decided to change your behavior because of it?
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"I’ve been thinking; you know, sometimes one thing happens to change your life, how you look at things, how you look at yourself. I remember one particular event. It was when? 1955 or '56...a long time ago. Anyway, I had been working at night. I wrote for the newspaper and, you know, we had deadlines. It was late after midnight on the night before Memorial Day. I had to catch the train back to Brooklyn; the West side IRT. This lady got on to the subway at 34th and Penn Station, a nice looking white lady in her early twenties. Somehow she managed to push herself in with a baby on her right arm and a big suitcase in her left hand. Two children, a boy and a girl about three and five years old trailed after her.
Anyway, at Nevins Street I saw her preparing to get off at the next station, Atlantic Avenue. That’s where I was getting off too. It was going to be a problem for her to get off; two small children, a baby in her arm, and a suitcase in her hand. And there I was also preparing to get off at Atlantic Avenue. I couldn’t help but imagine the steep, long concrete stairs going down to the Long Island Railroad and up to the street. Should I offer my help? Should I take care of the girl and the boy, take them by their hands until they reach the end of that steep long concrete stairs?
Courtesy is important to us Puerto Ricans. And here I was, hours past midnight, and the white lady with the baby in her arm, a suitcase and two white children badly needing someone to help her.
I remember thinking; I’m a *Negro and a Puerto Rican. Suppose I approach this white lady in this deserted subway station late at night? What would she say? What would be the first reaction of this white American woman? Would she say: 'Yes, of course you may help me,' or would she think I was trying to get too familiar or would she think worse? What do I do if she screamed when I went to offer my help? I hesitated. And then I pushed by her like I saw nothing as if I were insensitive to her needs. I was like a rude animal walking on two legs just moving on, half running along the long the subway platform, leaving the children and the suitcase and the woman with the baby in her arms. I ran up the steps of that long concrete stairs in twos and when I reached the street, the cold air slapped my warm face.
Perhaps the lady was not prejudiced after all. If you were not that prejudiced, I failed you, dear lady. If you were not that prejudiced I failed you; I failed you too, children. I failed myself. I buried my courtesy early on Memorial Day morning.
So, here is the promise I made to myself back then: if I am ever faced with an occasion like that again, I am going to offer my help regardless of how the offer is going to be received. Then I will have my courtesy with me again."
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Jesus Colon made a promise to himself that he would offer help to others no matter how the other person may react. By NOT helping the woman with her children, he was changed.
Assignment: Have you ever had an experience that affected you so much that you decided to change your behavior because of it? What was it like? Write one paragraph about it (you know the rules! 4-6 sentences following the structure we've practiced in class. Try to incorporate the transition and/or signal words!)
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Have you ever had an experience that affected you so much that you decided to change your behavior because of it? What was it like? Write one paragraph about it (you know the rules! 4-6 sentences following the structure we've practiced in class. Try to incorporate the transition and/or signal words!)
ReplyDeleteWhen I was younger about 8 or 9 years old, my aunt got very sick. At the beginning of her illness, I didn’t fully comprehend why she was in bed all the time. This was because I was so used to my aunt Nina cracking jokes at the dinner table or always having a funny story to tell us about her coworkers. My auntie Nina was diagnosed with breast cancer stage 2. Despite going through chemotherapy every week, she never lost the smile on her face (except when people didn’t laugh at her jokes). Her battle with her cancer showed me at a young age how much I had to appreciate the people that I love while I still can, because life is too short to wait for a tomorrow.
Thank you for sharing, Julissa!
DeleteTwo years ago, when i was in my first semester of practice, we worked with kids from a public school. Once in my last week of work i had to pull a permanent tooth from a girl who had 14 years, also it was my first time working alone so i was very insecure. Well when I started the process it was very difficult for me, so I asked for help to the doctor in charge, when she was preparing to do her thing the girl said: No you wont help her, because i believe in her and her knowledge, i know she can cause she gives me confidence, so the doctor saw me like: its your turn, go ahead!.. So i did it by myself, since that day i learned that if i dont trust in me no one will do it, i am the only responsible of my success and if i put all my effort in what i love i will achieve what i want, you just need to be confident about yourself.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing, Miluz! I'm sure that your patients are lucky to have you.
Delete** Remember, the pronoun "I" is always a capital letter. Also, don't forget to use apostrophes for contractions and possessives.
Three years ago my uncle passed away. Before he die he was living in Africa because a business company offered him a job. The last vacation that he came to DR i remember that the last night that he was here my family wanted to have dinner together. That night i didn't want to go with them because i wanted to stay in my house playing in the computer. I was chatting with my boyfriend and i told him that i didn't want to go to have dinner with my family, so he told me "you should go because you don't know what could happen later". He convinced me to go and i really spend a great time with my family that night. After that night, like 3 months later my uncle died and i remembered the words that my boyfriend told me.
ReplyDeleteIn this situation my boyfriend showed me how importat is to spend time with people that you love. If i wouldn't go that night, i wouldn't spend time with my uncle for last time.
Shamyl, I'm so glad that you had a chance to spend quality time with your uncle before he passed away. Thank you for sharing.
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When small it was a very shy person, then you reach the secondary entendir this feeling of insecurity or shame did not suit me and I decided to change this attitude. A person is shy to new social situations and which prevents or hinders talks and interact with others. This prevented feeling my development as a person when I had to talk left me cold. Succeeds in overcoming this obstacle a little in college class exhibitions and socialization with peers of the race, I'm a different person today because of my attitude change.
ReplyDeleteNelcida - thank you for sharing how you changed your attitude.
DeleteMy life changed five years ago when my grandpa died and 10 months ago my grandma passed the way, at that time I felt lost and depressed cause I think grand parents should be with us forever, they're the most lovely, patient and comprehensible in the entire world . My parents used to talk to me every day making me realized this is part of living. Now I believe they're with me in my heart, guiding me and taking care of me.
ReplyDeleteLaura, I'm sorry to read that your grandparents have both passed away. Thank you for sharing.
DeleteNote: comprehensible - UNDERSTANDING
Yes, I had an experience that changed my life and the way I saw the world.
ReplyDeleteI really like to help people, give them advice, talk to them when they are sad, and offer them a helping hand, but I'm very shy when it comes to helping strangers.
One day I saw a little girl on the corner of my street and I wanted to give her a gift because it was Christmas. So I observed her for a while but I did not have the courage to approach her and give her the gift. So I went home with her in my mind and have not been able to forget that moment. That could have been the only present that she had ever received and I didn't give it to her. After that happened, I started to help strangers, sometimes only by smiling at them because I don't know if that smile it's the only one they will be receiving on that day.
Tashira, this is such a sweet sentiment. I hope that you overcome your fear of talking to strangers.
DeleteWell I think I have one story, maybe it did not change my life but It makes me think different.
ReplyDeleteI live in Santiago since I was 2 years old and There is a man where I live who is known by never work, ask for money and he always say he is sick, two hours later you can see him in the Street With a Beer in his hand making jokes. One day I was coming home frome University, it was like 8:00 PM and he was in the parking and when he salute me he ask me for 50 Pesos to buy a Pill because He was with a terrible pain in the stomach, I did not believe him because He always says things like that in order to get money and buy alcohol but this time was true, he was suffering from Appendicitis, one year before that I went to cirgury because of that and I know how Painful that s!@.t is so When my mother told me the other day that he was on the hospital and he was complicate because he get there too late I feel horrible thinking that He was in a terrible pain and I reject him in a Awful way so After that I try not to judge anybody even If I know Him. I always regret not gave him the 50 Pesos.
Jose - I'm sorry that you had to learn this lesson in such a hard way!
DeleteEverything happened almost 10 years ago, I remember my cousin as this quite and lovely young man, always telling everyone how much he loved them. There was something on him that I couldn't understand, he always was hiding things from his family. One day I got home and found out that he killed himself, the quite and lovely guy was gone, the boy who always used to say to me "you are my favorite cousin, an the future Godmother of my children" shot at himself. It was very traumatic for me and my family, It took awhile to us to forget everything, it was a nightmare. Since then I appreciate every single moment of life, live my life the fullest of course with some boundaries, always trying to be happy despite of the circumtances, knowing that no matter what God and my family are there for me.
ReplyDeleteKatherine - I'm sorry you had to live through this situation. It is true that we never know what the other person is feeling or going through all the time.
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It is not an experience that changed my life, but it helped me to recognize the capacity I have to make things. I work with my parents in a Foundation for help poor people especially with medical problems, as I’m studying medicine people around expect that I have the ability to make many things as take the pressure, inject and many other things. Despite the fact that I’m in my first years of learning all of that, most of the people around me think that I know everything. Once we were at a poor community with all the doctors, my mom (she is gynecologist) she gave an order to do something with the patient and asked me questions about a disease. I knew the answer and I knew what to do, but I just got scared because it was my first time in front of a situation like that. In my mind I just thought “shut up, you don’t know what you are doing, you are not capable to do that, you will kill a person” and that kind of stuff so I freaked out. That was the first and last time I will do that to me. I know I’m capable to do whatever I want, months after that someone called me to ask me a favor. She ask me if I could put an injection to her mom, very excited and a bit nervous I accepted, the lady didn’t complain and said that she didn’t felt nothing. I was very proud of myself :)
ReplyDeleteYohaida,
DeleteCongratulations on using your skills to help other people! I hope that you continue to grow in confidence.
As a kid I had a very strong character and I still have but is difficult to have your own thoughts or have opinions too mature for that age even more when your friends don´t understand or respect your opinion. This attitude brought me a lot of discussions; made me a controversial kid and that didn't help me in my relationships with my friends. Also my mother all the time told me “change your attitude” but I didn't like that comment because why do I have to change or be other person to be accepted? . Later I had to do it to try to fit in a group. That decision made me understand that little changes could change a whole life because people started to notice that you are different or better. Is not that you going to be other person or be fake just to be accepted, is just decrease that things makes you difficult to have a relation with your family, friends or even a boyfriend or a girlfriend.
ReplyDeleteMaria,
DeleteThank you for sharing this. Don't change yourself too much for other people, though!
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ReplyDeleteWhen I was younger I wasn't used to spend a lot of time with my family, I was always watching tv, or doing something else. In 2008 my brother had an accident and nearly died, from that moment that I had to see how my family was falling apart without having a chance to do anything, I understood that I have to enjoy every moment of my life, not only with them but with all who lend me their time, sharing it with me. Now Im a happier person, because I enjoy every moment, it doesn't matter where I am or with who I am, I smile.
ReplyDeleteNancy,
DeleteThank you for sharing this!
There was an experience that completely changed my behavior some years ago and, it was because of a friendship. When a situation became difficult or annoying to me I used to go away and leave everything , trying to forget bad moments. I had a friend and we were arguing each other for a long time because we had differents points of view about a situation that was happening and I didn't have any tolerance so, I dicided to go away and forget everything about our friendship that had a lot of years and it hurted me a lot but, I didn't accept my mistake. Later on, I realized that nothing in my life was going to be easy or just like the way I would prefer, every person is different and that is the beauty of the life and I learned that I have to fight for those situations and people that are important to me because, the one that doesn't fight, do not deserve anything in life.
ReplyDeleteYes! Antonela,
DeleteI hope you continue to fight for your friendships. They are very important in life. Thank you for sharing.
My life change when i was 8 years old. Why?because my dad went to live to another country, not because my parents get divorced, its just because he had to find a better job to suport us. On that time i couldnt understand why we can not go with him, but today i know that thanks to him i am here, in the university, and having everything i need to live. But the fact that i understand the situation doesnt mean that im happy living without my father. So im always dreaming with the day that i can say to him "come and stay forever"
ReplyDeleteEmelyn,
DeleteThank you for sharing!
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Everything start five years ago when my uncle and my little cousin of 2 years old died in a car accident, before they died my uncle lived all his life in New York, so I never had the chance to meet him until he moved to Dominican Republic seven years ago. I was so happy to finally meet him, he was so nice, and even we never had the chance to talk in person we laugh, we share a lot of thing and I felt very comfortable. He married here in Dominican Republic and had a beautiful child. My little cousin always was laughing and he was a child full of joy. One day, five years ago, my uncle, my aunt and my little cousin went out to buy food for the dinner and before they arrived to the supermarket they had a car accident where my uncle and my little cousin died. It was a shock for all my family, and especially for me because after all the year I wait to finally meet him, he goes away too fast for me. Then I realize that, we have to enjoy each day as it is our last, because you never know when it will actually your last one.
ReplyDeleteLiana,
DeleteI'm sorry to read such a sad story, but I'm glad that you are able to look at it with a new perspective! Thank you for sharing.
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My life changed just two months ago when my cousin died of Leukemia after being fighting for his life for a whole year. Nobody knows when it started, only that it's over. It was a lesson for me because no matter what age we have or time, everybody have a purpose in this life and then to get it, only God knows where we have to be. His mission was to bring her daughter into the world. So I learned to value things, to give importance to what really matter.
ReplyDeleteGloria,
DeleteThank you for sharing.
Some years ago I had the opportunity to collaborate in camps for children in poor communities in the South of the country. There was so much poverty, small homes, their toys were leaves, sticks and stones, had no cars or roads. They only had a large field to run, their families and many smiles, the most impressive thing is that they don't complain about anything. These activities changed my life and made me realize that the reality of others is not the same as mine. It made me appreciate everything I have and realize that I am a privileged person of God.
ReplyDeleteNaomi,
DeleteThank you for sharing your story.
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A time ago i was at school by that time i usted to live in Spain and i wasnt a very good student and i had to repeat the grade and muy cousin which i admires a lot, my cousin wrote a lettre tellig me that se was dissapointed a me because she was expenting a lot from me because of my brother i was the only one that was studying and she antes me to become a profesional , because of that lettre i decided to come to DR to Study alone to become a profesional and nos my cousin is happy for me. And that changed my like.
ReplyDeletePatricia,
DeleteThank you for sharing.
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the thing that changed my life was the death of my grandfather because he was The person that i admired most, and for his last birthday i couldnt go and he was always the re for me he used to protected me a lot and by The time he died i wasnt with him and that changed The way i see life because we dont know when we going to leave this world that way we hace to live or life The most i can.
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